Staying Positive in a Negative Environment

by Julie Fuimano, Executive Coach


One of the most difficult things to do as leaders is stay positive when everyone else around us is negative. It's not easy to maintain a positive attitude and not be drained or consumed by the negativity that surrounds you. But as a leader, that's exactly what you must do. You have the opportunity to be the beacon of light for others around you. You can demonstrate and teach by your actions and responses how to behave in an appropriate, positive and professional manner.

It's easy to be positive in a positive environment. It is when the environment is emotionally draining and negative that you are challenged to step up to the plate and behave differently. By doing so, you make a difference - creating a positive impact that sends ripples throughout the workplace community.

Positive energy is just as contagious as negative energy. Sometimes, people are simply stuck in a negative habit or pattern of behavior. If the environment is really caustic, then it's been that way for a long time. This is what people are used to; it's familiar to them and may be all they know. Also, the fact that the environment has been negative for this long and no one has done anything to change it will have fostered an attitude that it's acceptable.

It will take time and effort on your part, as well as a commitment to do something different, in order to create sustainable change. You must be willing to identify and stop tolerating what's not working, do the right thing even if it's unpopular at first, and then teach others to do the same.

Here are five things you can do to be the positive force in your workplace.

1) Observe yourself in action

In what ways are you contributing to the negativity around you? Are you listening to gossip or participating in conversations where the focus is to denigrate, diminish or criticize people or things? If the conversation feels bad, it's probably negative. Stop being negative! Stop saying or doing anything that is negative.

It all starts with you. Language matters. Everything you say has an impact and when you say something negative, not only does it dishonor the person you're speaking about and the person you're speaking with, it makes you feel bad even if you don't realize it. Putting someone else down is disrespectful of them and it disrespects you. Learn to respect people's humanity and their right to be themselves. Complaining without end does not focus on creating solutions; rather its impact is only to perpetuate and magnify the problem wasting everyone's precious time and energy.

2. Recognize negativity when it occurs around you

Sometimes, you can feel your energy being drained by words being spoken. These feelings are your inner messengers. They are a form of intelligence similar to a tap on the shoulder letting you know something is not right. How do you feel? What is happening? What behavior is being displayed? If you can identify what is happening, then you can make good choices about handling it. The first step is awareness.

3. Speak up!

Tell the other person how you feel. Use the words, "This doesn't work for me." It's non-judgmental and it's about you, not them. People often don't realize they are being negative. Explain to the person, in a gentle and caring way, that they are being negative. "Do you realize you are frequently complaining?" Sometimes, just bringing it to their attention will be enough to shift the conversation. Over time, people will learn what they can and cannot talk about with you, and in most cases they will respect you boundaries. But if you say nothing - your silence gives them permission to continue.

4. Make your conversations constructive

Ensure each conversation is positive, meaningful and beneficial. What's the point or purpose of the conversation? Is it to hurt or to help? And at the end of the conversation, what would you like to have happen? Is there an action step to take? Constructive conversations feel good. They are empowering and have the effect of leaving people a little better off from having participated in them. Become the kind of person who takes your time seriously and who takes your words seriously!

5. Frequently praise others!

It's amazing what a few words of praise and acknowledgement can do to make people feel good. You want people to feel encouraged after being in your presence. You want to be the kind of person people gravitate to because they know they will be uplifted by you, not put down, drained or discouraged.

Learning how to be positive as you navigate through life is an important lesson in leadership. And no matter what is going on around you, you control your inner environment and how you choose to respond to external events and situations. It's your responsibility to become the kind of person you enjoy being and with whom others enjoy being around.

It takes a true leader to walk a path different from the crowd. So when others are negative, stretch your boldness muscles and be positive in spite of what others do or think. It's the only way to create a ripple of change. And we know that from small beginnings come great things. If each of us does our part, then slowly but surely, we will make a difference our work environment and the community at large.

Julie Fuimano, MBA, BSN, RN is The Coach with Nurturing Your Success, Inc., working with people who are frustrated, stressed and unhappy and who are ready to give up the overwhelm for the time, peace and happiness they desire. Clients report increased clarity and focus, confidence, and control in situations. They say no to what they don't want - without guilt - and yes to what they do; they receive more respect, have more time for themselves, and have more fun. Sound good to you? Julie works by phone and is currently accepting new clients! Call today
(610) 277-2726 or write to Julie@nurturingyoursuccess.com to explore how coaching would work for you or your organization. Julie is a popular speaker, world renown writer and author of "The Journey Called YOU: A Roadmap to Self-Discovery and Acceptance," the manual for personal leadership-available in bookstores. Sign up for her e-newsletter at www.nurturingyoursuccess.com.


 
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