The Key to Achieving Success
The most critical attribute for realizing our
dreams is integrity. Integrity can be summarized
this way: Say what you mean and mean what you
say. Honor your word and agreements and you will
be living with integrity, where dreams really
do come true.
Simple, yes, but not always easy. Vastly overscheduled,
often the person it's most difficult to keep our
commitments with, is yourself. As you practice
upholding your values, you are given opportunities
to show up or to sell out. When you are challenged,
do you lose sight of what matters to you? Do you
have an internal pulse, a set of conscious principles
that you live your life by?
If you are committed to a life of joy and abundance,
filled with love, generosity and contribution,
integrity is a must. Integrity creates trust and
accountability. Surrounded by crowds, you can
feel lonely if you're not true to yourself. Without
integrity, you can have great wealth and still
feel worthless. And lacking integrity, you won't
trust yourself or have faith in your dreams.
When we leave things unresolved or incomplete,
we are out of integrity. You can recognize something
as incomplete by how you feel about it. Is the
matter settled? Do you worry about it? How is
it impacting other areas of your life? When you
are complete with something you don't even think
about it. There is no agitation or energy wasted.
It's up to you to decide if something is incomplete
or not, but it's difficult to focus on future
dreams when you are consumed by your past. Incompletions
can be notorious and contagious as one leads to
another. Buried under burdensome annoyances we
can feel lost, afraid or confused. Take Jake for
instance. He didn't pay his taxes for two years.
The IRS put a lien on his assets, so he was labelled
a bad credit risk. He couldn't buy a house or
rent an apartment. Eventually he lost his credit
cards. He was caught in a downward spiral that
also undermined his confidence and self esteem.
Linda let her parking tickets pile high and never
got around to paying them. She became afraid to
drive her car because she might get towed. Concerned
about driving to work, she eventually lost her
job. A small detail led to a bigger concern, which
led to an even worse problem.
Carol had a room in her home that she called the
"black hole," filled with incomplete
items. Since she and her husband were trying to
sell their house, she knew it was time to tackle
that project. She came up with a list of over
one hundred "items to do." They included
returning things she had borrowed, writing letters,
even mailing back an inexpensive bracelet she
had stolen from her local drug store when she
was a teenager. It took some time and effort,
but with each item she handled, Carol felt lighter
and freer. Within a few weeks of completing her
list, they easily sold their house. Completion
This powerful process of exploring what's been
left unsaid, undone or incomplete in your life
is one of the most awesome things you can do to
free yourself and have more access to your dreams.
If undertaken to the best of your ability, this
may be the most profound thing you have ever done.
Look at all these important areas and use this
formula as a guide to scrutinize your life. The
areas to explore (but are not limited to) include
your body, mind, home, work, finance, and people
(living and dead).
1. Write down what you feel incomplete about with
anyone or anything.
2. List what you need to do to complete it.
3. Complete as many items as possible.
How do you complete something? You may need to
write a letter or make a phone call. You may need
to forgive someone or just declare "it's
over." On some items, you might need to create
a project plan or you might not even know yet.
Just do your best to get rid of anything that
is weighing you down.
Removing clutter will give you greater clarity
and energy for the things that are important to
you. As you complete what you can, feelings of
pride, accomplishment, and peace of mind, can
motivate you to take on even the tough things.
Free to move forward, now you can tap into the
flow of life. The more your life is in order,
the faster and easier your ability to manifest
dreams will become. It's just that simple.
Marcia Wieder is a best-selling
author and speaker who is known as America's Dream
Coach®. She's known for giving inspiring and
moving talks to AT&T, The Gap and American
Express. She appeared several times on Oprah and
The Today Show. She's also a syndicated columnist
for The San Francisco Chronicle. For more information,
to receive a free audio e-book, "Jump Start
Your Dream", or to join her community of
Dreamers, visit http://www.dreamcoach.com.
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