to Job Loss
By Julie Fuimano, Personal & Career
20 years of employment, I was injured and my
employer told me they had no job for me. You
bet I'm angry!"
people lose their jobs through injury, downsizing
or closings and it's challenging to come to
terms with leaving an employer after so many
years of service. Anger is a natural response,
as is depression, denial, bargaining and eventually,
acceptance - all the stages of grief. Whenever
we experience a transition, whether we cause
it ourselves or it is thrust upon us, we experience
all of these emotions in order to deal with
and come to terms with the change.
people get stuck in the anger. There are several
reasons why this occurs. If you are still dealing
with anger over some loss in your life, be it
job-related or other, what's important is that
that you realize how this anger is holding you
back and make the decision to think differently
so that you can move on to enjoy more of life.
Your power lies in accepting a new paradigm
so you can move beyond anger and into acceptance.
Business Is Not A Person
Businesses exist to perform a service or to
sell or manufacture products. When a business
is born, jobs are created. These jobs provide
opportunities for members of the community to
work, earn a wage and enjoy some level of personal
satisfaction in being part of this bigger organization
and participating in the realization of the
company mission. There are, however, no guarantees
that this company will stay the same, that the
company will survive, that the mission will
remain the same or that your job will continue
you are looking for job security, it doesn't
exist. The job security you seek is present
within you - your ability to perform work, your
skills and capacity to learn, your experience
and your education. You won't find security
outside yourself. Security is a personal need.
If you are looking for your needs to be met
by your company, you will always be disappointed.
don't exist to fulfill your personal needs.
You must get your needs met elsewhere. Businesses
exist to perform some service or product and
to make money. In so doing, there are many byproducts
including jobs, goodwill and vitalization within
the community in addition to the service or
goods they are providing. If they don't make
money, they don't stay in business.
Business isn't personal. Layoffs aren't personal;
they are business decisions. Good or bad, the
decision is not about you. Jobs created by opening
a business enable you to receive an exchange
of value for your time, effort, energy and skills
in the form of money and benefits. While there
may be advantages, there is no additional compensation.
must separate the business from the people.
The business owes you nothing and you owe the
business nothing outside of the exchange of
value you agreed upon when you were hired. Just
because you stay with a company for many years
doesn't mean they owe you something additional.
You may think the company should do something,
you may want the company to do something but
there is no obligation to do so. Their obligation
is to the development of the company and the
fulfillment of the company mission.
is possible that management feels a certain
way, possesses a certain value system and believes
that it is in the company's best interest to
treat their employees to extras or to go out
of their way for the employees. This is about
the people who work for the organization. It's
not about the business itself. The business
has to keep things in perspective and focus
on the survival and vitality of the business,
otherwise it will get lost in trying to meet
the needs of its people, which is not why it
exists. It will lose focus and die. Then, there
will be no jobs.
People often feel that they must give their
heart and soul to the job. This is a fallacy.
Focus on doing the best work you can. If you
choose to go above and beyond what is expected,
you do so for yourself and not for anyone else.
This may not be rewarded. So, if you are happy
at the end of the day with your performance,
then great. If you feel resentful that the company
is taking more of you then you'd like, accept
responsibility for your behavior and realize
that the company has taken nothing from you
without your permission.
not expect anything in return except that which
you have agreed to when you were hired. If you
are loyal and dedicated, it's because that is
the kind of person you are, not because you
expect something in return. You may get more
then you ever thought possible and that's wonderful.
But there is no guarantee you'll get more.
are responsible for the results you receive.
If you are not happy with what you have, then
start asking what you are doing to bring about
these results. If you deserve a raise, ask for
it; if you don't ask, the answer will always
be no. If you believe you have more value then
what you are receiving from your current employer,
then find another employer that will value you
in the way you want to be valued.
you are doing too much, staying too late and
taking on too many projects, learn to place
limits around your time and the work you agree
to take on. Set realistic expectations for what
you are capable of accomplishing in a day. If
you've been overestimating what is possible
for you to do in an 8-hour day, you can be sure
that it's damaging you physically.
fate of your life is not at the mercy of a business.
Change your perspective, realizing that you
are responsible for your choices. If you entrust
your fate to a business or employer, you won't
get what you want - you'll get what they want.
And that's sure to make you angry.
Fuimano, MBA, BSN, RN is a Personal
& Career Coach, author and motivational
speaker. Her passion is coaching clients to
express their values, gifts and talents to the
fullest and to become all that they are meant
to be. Are you being all you want to be? Are
you living a life you love? For your 20-minute
coaching consultation, visit Julie at www.nurturingyoursuccess.com,
write to her at Julie@nurturingyoursuccess.com
or call her directly at (484) 530-5024.